Friends, Well, dang. It is no longer Thursday or Friday. But I am hoping to get my Thankful Thursday 01.2020 post written right now before it isn’t even Saturday anymore. Had the best of intentions to link up promptly with Rebecca Jo for her gratitude series but then LIFE, in all caps, bit my behind good this week. I am most thankful that today is a better day than yesterday.
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Thankful Thursday 01.2020
Have to be honest, there were a few nights recently where I turned my back on my gratitude journal. Although I always have so much to be thankful for, those evenings I didn’t have a very grateful heart. And didn’t feel like concentrating hard enough to think of something I was thankful for. Shameful, I know.
Here are some of the things I did give gratitude for in my “Good Days Start With Gratitude” journal…or in my case, end with gratitude. I always complete my gratitude journal before going to sleep.
- Skyping and laughing with my sister Valerie
- PC helping me around the house
- Spending time with both of my daughters, Brennyn and Lauren, and their daughters, Cady and Lucia
- Money in my bank account even after Christmas
- A day at home alone
- My nephew Trey’s graduation from Basic Training
- Camila was born healthy and Lauren is doing well after her C-section
- My Prince has a new job to start
- Sharon, my BFF
- Looking forward to this year’s opportunities
- Cady called me
- Finding Smile at the public library to read on Skype with Cady
- Our kittens
- PC has been so good to help me help Lauren and Francisco
- Lauren’s ❤️ problems were addressed by her cardiologist
- Our country
- Soldiers and their families
- Martin Luther King, Jr.’s message
- Breakfast with Lorena
- Money to buy groceries
- Concierge service at Lafayette to replace mom’s Senior Helpers who are going away
- My brother Kevin and all he does to help my mom
So blessed. Every. Single. Day. Even when I am too stressed to think about it. Probably more so then!
My sweet mother is 92 years old and will be 93 next month. I have shared some of the struggles we have faced in caring for mom in past posts, here and here. This week, my mom’s health care providers are changing and she has been very upset about the change. As the date neared for the new health care program to begin, mom began having trouble talking. She couldn’t complete sentences or even thoughts. And struggled finding or saying, actually speaking some of the words she wanted to say. I went to bed very concerned about her Thursday night and awoke Friday to text messages from my brother saying she was worse.
We are never sure with mom if her issues are psychiatric/psychological or physical. She wanted to go to the hospital even though Kevin had taken her to the urgent care clinic on Wednesday and they couldn’t find anything wrong. Between the 3 of us kids, we decided he should take her or have EMS take her by ambulance to the only emergency room where there is psychiatric help available. We didn’t know if she was having a breakdown or a stroke.
After a number of tests, including one to determine the presence of a UTI, which we learned this time last year can cause a number of symptoms including confusion. Nothing showed up anywhere. And then, the results of a CT scan showed our mother has experienced sudden and very advanced atrophy to her brain. The ER doctor was not an expert on dementia but said it could have been brought on by our mother’s reaction to the change in health care providers. She was so upset, so stressed over the changes that it caused memory loss and atrophy. You can learn more here.
Assisted Living, Personal Care or Memory Care
The ER doctor released mom and she is home. And we are scrambling to figure out what comes next. Mom is living in a retirement community with several hours of help a day as offered first by a private entity and now by the complex where she lives. But yesterday, at the ER she didn’t know where she was, didn’t know my brother’s name. It is time to start looking for more advanced care for mom.
We hate to move her…again…but her current complex doesn’t offer the care she is probably going to need. If not immediately, very shortly. My brother Kevin has been so good to drop everything and run when mom calls but we are heading into uncharted waters. He may not be able to handle the types of situations we may soon be facing. We are learning about the differences in assisted living and personal care and memory care. Kevin has been out today looking to find the best place for mom.
Wish us luck.
So, what things have you thanking your lucky stars this month? What blessings are you counting? Please share in a comment below and let me know what you are grateful for. Then run by to say hi to my pal, Rebecca.
Excited about crossing some things off my winter bucket list tonight!! Going to have some fun out and about with my PC. Hope you enjoy your weekend, too.
Hugs and kisses,