Have much to do and almost skipped out on my Morning Pages, my quiet time and writing a blog post for today.So glad I didn’t. Two dear friends host link-ups on Thursdays on their individual blogs. Rebecca Jo from Knit By God’s Hand posts Thankful Thursday and Penny at Penny’s Passion does Thinking Out Loud Thursday. I wanted to participate in both but have house cleaning, ironing, yard work to do. And my Prince is coming home earlier every day since his job is going away. Once he is home, it’s hard to get anything done.
Thinking Out Loud Thursday 07.2019
So, I almost skipped quiet time so I could quick, quick write a blog post – thinking out loud about how nervous and worried I am about PC’s job situation. Running with negative thoughts about the ‘what ifs’…
- What if he isn’t offered a job in El Paso?
- What if he has to accept a job up to 400 miles away?
- What if a job doesn’t come along, and his paycheck comes to an end from this position that is moving away?
- What if he turns down a job offered him from the Priority Placement List, and then he is unemployed?
- What if we have to start working for minimum wage at the corner store?
I thought about the message at church, Abundant Living Faith Center, on Sunday about family matters. Specifically, that day, about how:
- Money is the #1 cause of divorce
- Money is the #1 issue couples fight about
- 50% of married couples don’t talk about finances
- 84% of those married hide purchases
- The average American household makes $61,000 – making money isn’t the issue in a lot of marriages
- 75% of Americans are 6 months away from being homeless
Why would God ‘let’ Francisco find a job here, the kids find a home and be able to move to El Paso to be near us only to have PC’s job move to the east coast?
That was what I was thinking to myself and planning to share for Thinking Out Loud Thursday. But thankfully, my devotional called out to me. My new quiet time book Renewing the Mind, 2.0 by Casey and Wendy Treat was not content to be ignored. It practically begged to be read. So glad I reluctantly took the time. Before I started reading, I even looked to see how long chapter 3 was – and, sorry God, rolled my eyes because it was 13 pages long! And I didn’t want to read that much, how can I call myself a – retired – librarian?
Your Thinking Determines Your Lifestyle
Girls, I am so glad I read today!! Chapter 3 is entitled “Your Thinking Determines Your Lifestyle”. The authors talk about how one thought can niggle its way into your brain and become all encompassing. My thoughts and worries about money and job loss were doing just that this morning. They had set my mood for today from the moment my feet hit the carpet this a.m. Like a cloud of darkness permeating our bedroom, our home, our relationship.
Then I started reading – ignoring my cell phone that was blowing up with texts from 3 friends and 1 daughter and with videos from the other daughter.
Where Are My Negative Thoughts Coming From?
The Treats encourage readers to examine where their negative thoughts are coming from. PC and I have been in this identical position before where his job moved away and he had to find a new one. But everything turned out okay then. His job went away and almost immediately, another job came available.
Instead of focusing on the ‘what-ifs?’ that have no historical credibility, I need to focus on what did happen last time. God didn’t ‘let us down’ then and He will walk with us through whatever is coming up on our path this time.
The authors explain that whatever thought you continually process becomes a belief. Which explains how abused women and children can become so brainwashed about their own worth. They point to the Bible, Philippians 4:8 where Paul says we are to:
Focus on things that are true, honest, pure, lovely, of good report, virtuous and praise-worthy.
God has seen us through before. He will hold us up through this period, too. Lauren, Francisco and Lucia are coming to El Paso for a reason. Our families will grow closer than ever.
When Lauren Was a Little Girl…
she would say she was going to buy the house right next door to our little house where she and Brennyn grew up. Then she planned to dig a tunnel between the house so we could always be together. In truth, the 2 houses were so close together we could almost open our dining room window and touch the house next door! No tunnel needed!
And here that dream is coming true.
Instead of filling my head with destructive, negative thoughts, ruminating that “I knew this was going to happen…the worst always does,” I need to reflect on how we, how I have always come through okay. As Wendy Treat says:
If you renew your mind, you can renew your life.
If you can change a thought, you can change your life.
For those times when craziness has befallen our lives, our family, we have managed to survive, to rise above, to learn from the the crazy times. And have even had some good laughs at the stories we’ve been able to tell.
Here are some of the things I have been thankful for lately. You can read my last Thankful Thursday post, here. In that post, I also spoke about ways I am finding moments of peace in my life each day. My quiet time outside is still my favorite way to enjoy peace.
- Time spent playing with Lucia in her yard.
- My sister’s visit with my granddaughter Cady.
- Beautiful mornings on the patio.
- Mom sounds chipper.
- Getting excited about writing library lessons again.
- Finding a good daycare for Lucia – and that the kids trust my judgement.
- Lauren’s baby is healthy and a LITTLE GIRL!!
- Good photo ops at the Socorro Mission.
- Patriotic songs.
- PC’s and my brother Kevin’s patriotism.
- Our country.
- The pain in my leg is better lately.
- Church services on family matters.
- Good workouts, bike rides and reaching my Weight Watchers lifetime goal weight.
- Wonderful date to celebrate our anniversary.
- Brennyn is teaching Cady how to cook.
What are you thankful for lately? Would love to have you share in a comment below. Then come along with me to visit Penny and Rebecca Jo’s Thursday posts, won’t you?
Tomorrow Lauren and Lucia arrive to begin life in El Paso. Francisco is driving the U-Haul down on Saturday. It will be a happily busy weekend for us as we help the kids settle into their new home. Francisco will have to return to work in Albuquerque for a few months longer before he can join his girls in El Paso.
Even with taking time to read all of Chapter 3 in my devotional and coloring a page in my journaling Bible, I still got the house clean, the yard cut, the ironing done, and the laundry washed and put away. So glad I took the time. Thankful that YOU took some time to be here with me today!
Hugs and kisses,