Morning glories, thanks for stopping by for 10 on the 10th 01.2021. Today’s prompt: 10 memories from 2020. You might have read my post from last week 20 from 2020 where I recounted lessons I learned from that crazy year. I want to walk back down memory lane over the past 12 months and reflect on the crazy that was 2020.
10 Memories from 2020
In this post, I am revisiting some of the things that made 2020 the year that it was. Hope you won’t hold me to 10 memories. There was so much crazy to remember this past year.
- Camila Jean came into the world via C-section on 01.08.2020. Her birthday is the same as my nephew Andrew who lost his battle with Wilm’s Tumor kidney cancer at 3 years old.
- We learned that the Senior Helpers who worked with my mom in her assisted living apartment would no longer be under contract with Lafayette. Mom was so upset, so stressed over the changes that it caused very sudden onset memory loss and very advanced atrophy to her brain. My brother, sister and I began scrambling to figure out how to get Mom the help she needs.
- P.S. I adopted the abandoned series 10 on the 10th and made it my own.
- Mom continued to struggle. She told me that she just couldn’t do it any more. Worried all month trying to figure out how to best help her.
- My brother was out of town when Mom fell one morning, hitting her head and had to be taken by ambulance to the ER. They kept her most of the day and determined she had had a small stroke. When they released her late in the afternoon (no overnight evaluation or monitoring with a stroke?), we had no way of getting her home. Transportation at her apartment closed down at 4 pm, and thanks to Covid, no one from her apartment complex could pick her up. Poor thing returned home in an ambulance, barefoot, bare-bottomed, in a hospital gown.
- Thankfully, she was not affected physically by the stroke but it left her more confused and less able to communicate verbally.
- Subbed for a few days in a 4th grade class which would turn out to be the only time I would be able to work this year.
- Enjoyed the Alan Jackson concert so much; that date would be our last big date of the year.
- Flew to Phoenix for a weekend of Reds spring training baseball for PC’s birthday. During one game, we sat in front of a woman who coughed the entire time. Later wondered if she had Covid. This would be our only vacation this year.
- Mom was admitted to the hospital with pneumonia but something more was going on. My sister and I flew to Kentucky. Nothing Mom said made sense: that someone came in and gave her bath wearing a beautiful gown, that her chicken for dinner had come from 1700 Pennsylvania Avenue, that she had 5 then 4 feet, very concerning. Spent days with Mom at the hospital and nights cleaning her apartment, preparing to move her. The doctor said she had to move to a nursing home. Several days later, she was released from the hospital and sent directly to rehab. We made arrangements for her furniture and personal belongings to be moved from Lafayette to a personal care apartment at Country Place once she left rehab. She spent her 93rd birthday alone.
- Missed Lucia’s 4th birthday while I was gone. When I returned home, went to the commissary only to discover no meat, no bread, no toilet paper. Lots of empty shelves and military police on every aisle monitoring what customers put in their carts.
- Very lonely birthday. My mom didn’t remember it.
- PC’s father was diagnosed with kidney failure and put on hospice after several hospital stays determined nothing could be done to help him.
- Mom was released from rehab and got moved, by total strangers, into her new apartment.
- New Covid-related restrictions. Hand washing stations set up outside the commissary. Paul’s son has Covid.
- Facetiming to help Cady with school, to play Barbies with her, to read with her.
- Lauren returned to work after being on maternity leave and I began helping with the girls. For awhile life felt wonderful and almost normal. Kindercare was closed for awhile, then reopened but the kids were afraid for Lucia to go. And hoped to keep Cami home til she was 6 months old.
- Paul’s father died on 05.07.2020. He was alone in the hospital but passed peacefully. We last saw him in 12.2019. Because of the virus, the family was worried about having us come home. So hard.
- Brennyn and Cady flew home (but had to wear masks) to meet Camila.
- Mom battled UTIs that had her out of her head and falling much of the month. She told my sister she wished she could commit suicide. Mom hasn’t threatened that since the fall 0f 2018 and hasn’t attempted since 2016. So hard to hear. So hard to know she is miserable. Had to move her again. This time into another facility where they have assisted living and nursing available to her. None of us could be with her or help the maintenance people with the move. She is in her 4th apartment in 6 months.
- Days of 100*+ temps were difficult to deal with.
- Did Cami and Cia-sitting most days, M-F.
- A month of ups and downs with mom.
- Birthdays for my 3 babies: Cady on the 28th, Brennyn on the 30th and Lauren on the 31st.
- First HelloFresh box. In love.
- One of the hottest summers on record. Too hot to have to wear a mask. How can this virus survive?
- First anniversary of the El Paso shooting that took 24 lives.
- Cami started daycare.
- Flew to Kentucky to visit Mom as we were worried that the increasing numbers of Covid cases across the country would keep us from being able to go if we waited any longer. Valerie flew here to El Paso and then we flew to Kentucky the next day. Could only see her through plexiglass across a large table or through her apartment window. Heartbreaking not to be able to touch her.
- PC’s back issues became more unbearable. Was unable to play baseball. Vultures at the ball park were an ominous sign of the times.
- Mom seemed to be settling into her life at Cedarhurst, but they go from Code Yellow to Code Red. She hasn’t been able to leave her apartment hardly at all. Doesn’t even know what the rest of the facility looks like and has lived there 3 months.
- Record heat. In October!
- Record number of Covid cases.
- PC’s back continued to get worse.
- Anniversary of my mother-in-law’s horrible wreck. She was finally cleared of any possible jail time or lawsuits.
- Surprise October snow.
- I created my wish tree and it seemed everyone in the neighborhood left a wish.
- Most days Mom seemed happy, or at least content. Has a speech therapist who is wonderful and more like a friend than a therapist.
- Had a kind of surprise parathyroidectomy to relieve kidney issues and high calcium levels in my body.
- Biopsied masses show no sign of cancer. Thank God.
- Over 3000 new Covid cases in one day in our city.
- Valerie and Roby came for Thanksgiving anyway.
- Cami began walking and going to school fulltime; Lucia and Cady start back to school.
- Quiet month as I was unable to help with the babies
- Paul’s mom, brother and sister-in-law all contracted Covid
- Covid numbers began decreasing slightly
- Christmas for 2; PC and I spent the day alone, watched the babies open presents on Facetime
That brings us to the January and this new year and the end of 10 on the 10th 01.2021.
This new year honestly doesn’t seem a lot different yet. We are seeing lots more people out and about. Always masked but the numbers of cars in the parking lots at restaurants, shopping centers and grocery stores is alarming. Schools are still closed for face-to-face learning and have been for almost a year. Our numbers had been going down and then hovering at about 300 new Covid cases a day in El Paso. Today we had over 800 new cases in the city. Here we go again?
My mom’s beloved speech therapist has had to quit working to homeschool her children. We worry what that will mean for our mother. My 3 frontline healthcare workers – Brennyn, Mustafa, and Francisco – have all been vaccinated against Covid. They all say that second vaccination is a doozy. Take ibuprofen immediately after. Lauren and I are on the list for the next shipment of vaccinations.
What would your stand out memories of 2020 include? If you have a 10 on the 10th 01.2021 post, please link it up below. Or share some of your highlights or lowlights in a comment.
Off to bed. This has been quite a busy week on the blog. Thank you for spending some of your time here with me. Wishing you a restful Sunday and a peaceful week.
Hugs and kisses,